Is HER safe?

What is HER?

Dating and social app for queer women combining swipe-style matching, a social feed, interest communities, and events; more community-oriented than a pure hookup app.

Category: Lesbian, bisexual, queer women (also nonbinary/trans welcoming)

Safety rating: Moderate

Real features (selfie verification, incognito mode, a redesigned Support & Safety screen) but independent reviews describe inconsistent enforcement — reported/duplicate accounts reappearing, slow support.

Ratings are qualitative (Strong, Moderate or Basic) and based only on safety features we could verify from the app’s own help pages and reputable reporting. How we rate apps.

HER safety features

• Selfie verification (pose-match) for a verified badge
• Discreet/incognito mode + location fuzzing
• Redesigned in-app Support & Safety screen with clearer block/report flows
• Moderation reportedly trained on queer-specific abuse patterns
• No disclosed ID verification, background checks, AI scam detection, or panic/location-share tool

A red cross marks a feature that has ended, is missing or could not be confirmed.

Features and pricing

• Free: browsing, chats, event browsing, 30+ interest communities
• Premium (~$8.99-14.99/mo): incognito, filters, real-time hello, ad-free, who-liked-you
• In-person events/parties in ~15 cities

How to report a scammer or harassment on HER

Report the profile inside the app first, then use HER’s own help and safety pages:

• [email protected]
• [email protected] (no dedicated public Trust & Safety microsite found)

Screenshot the profile and messages before you block or unmatch, because the conversation may disappear. If you have lost money, contact your bank straight away and report it to the police or national fraud service listed on this page.

Staying safer on HER

• Use HER’s verification and give more weight to verified matches. Verification confirms a face matches the photos; it says nothing about intentions.
• Keep the conversation in the app until you have met. Scammers push early for WhatsApp, Telegram or text because the app can no longer see or moderate the chat.
• Ask for a live video call before meeting. Repeated excuses, a camera that never works or a face that looks off are all reasons to stop.
• Be alert to meet-up robbery setups: insist on a public first meeting and be wary of a match who will only meet at a private address.
• Never send money, crypto, gift cards or a verification code to someone you have only met online, whatever the story.
• Meet somewhere busy and public, arrange your own travel and tell a friend where you will be.

Scams to watch for

Meet-up robbery setups

Criminals use fake profiles to arrange a date at a private home, quiet park or isolated spot.

Sextortion and image blackmail

The criminal poses as an attractive person (often a young woman) on a dating app, social media or game, flirts quickly, and persuades the target to exchange nude images or join an intimate video call that is secretly recorded.

Fake ‘safety ID’ verification links

Soon after matching, the scammer moves the chat to an encrypted messenger and says that, for their safety, you must 'verify' on a third-party website before meeting.

Catfishing and impersonation

Scammers build profiles from photos stolen from real people – often soldiers, professionals or celebrities – and invent a life that explains why they cannot meet: deployed overseas, working on an oil rig, with an international organisation, or too famous.

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